Name calling

I have a problem when it comes to name calling. I just say things without thinking about it. For example if Jake is being silly I tell him he is being a queer. He always corrects me saying, "Oh so I like guys now. Well I am glad you are my cover up." I also call him a jerk if he is mean. I don't think of them as being mean, but they get my point across even though for the most part it doesn't make any sense. i justify it because there are worse things to be called than gay or whatever else. Well I call my brothers and sometimes Dad is included in it, a bunch of buttheads. If I am irritated I will say, "Which one of you buttheads. . . " or "You little buttheads!" It is an ugly name, but I use it. Well anyway the point of my story is that Dad adds to it, making it funnier. So one morning I came in to the bathroom to find some of my clothing in front of the mirror and one of my tanks shredded. I came upstairs and referring to Benjamin and Jarom I snapped about what "buttheads" they were. Dad continued it by deciding we should be more specific. He now calls Benny "Colon" and Jarom "Rectum" As I stated before, there are worse things to be called than the names I use.